tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.comments2022-11-04T06:34:22.464-04:00a cup of ambiguityNikkihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01659742665523317143noreply@blogger.comBlogger49125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-39729769652043380372012-08-16T01:08:08.497-04:002012-08-16T01:08:08.497-04:00Wow. Just wow. Here I was looking for breed possib...Wow. Just wow. Here I was looking for breed possibilities for my brothers new dog and your comment about Sandra Bullock's baby came up. Are you high? I would think your involvement in and knowledge of the adoption process would have yielded a more accurate opinion. For instance I am certain that this adoption process started at least 6 months ago. That is being generous. There are home studies, psychological reviews, financial reviews and character references just to obtain an approval. That is before you can even begin the process of hoping to find the right baby for your family. I'm sure Ms. Bullock had no idea her life was about to fall apart. No one; realistically, would even think about starting the long process of adoption in the midst of such horrible personal turmoil. To compare her obvious joy over new motherhood to acquiring a toaster oven or a puppy is beyond cynical.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-4747753647118125632010-08-21T19:47:42.332-04:002010-08-21T19:47:42.332-04:00Can't wait to see you next year! :-)Can't wait to see you next year! :-)The Declassified Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16726376584015902627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-78716935075735755122010-07-29T09:11:49.614-04:002010-07-29T09:11:49.614-04:00Deep bow to you and to everyone who made this year...Deep bow to you and to everyone who made this year's demo a reality!! Thank you for your incredible work!!Third Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06310395341252295955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-73115630047883180982010-07-27T21:47:11.942-04:002010-07-27T21:47:11.942-04:00Nikki, I'm so glad I got to meet you. I wish ...Nikki, I'm so glad I got to meet you. I wish we had had more time. I cannot wait until next year. You are right, it was amazing to meet everyone. And nerve-wrecking. But mostly amazing. Be well.philhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04754781281360440378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-13161028361892949272010-06-28T08:33:04.066-04:002010-06-28T08:33:04.066-04:00Saturday was a true bummer.Saturday was a true bummer.Third Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06310395341252295955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-68689497636463684682010-06-15T03:03:30.842-04:002010-06-15T03:03:30.842-04:00He's a cutie!He's a cutie!Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-17321254705480037182010-06-15T03:02:03.659-04:002010-06-15T03:02:03.659-04:00Go Girl!!Go Girl!!Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-26955403551608669842010-06-06T17:10:03.154-04:002010-06-06T17:10:03.154-04:00Well said. Very well said.Well said. Very well said.Third Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06310395341252295955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-30132233164322871952010-06-01T10:34:53.636-04:002010-06-01T10:34:53.636-04:00omg that looks delicious!omg that looks delicious!SustainableFamilieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08820607553556177222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-68297702818208025022010-05-19T07:58:09.753-04:002010-05-19T07:58:09.753-04:00"but if you base my life on what you know of ..."but if you base my life on what you know of your own adopted child's or your friend's aunt's daughter's adopted child, I'll have to kindly rip you a new one."<br /><br />Oh Nikki... ::coffee spit:: ;)Crickethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16968579258082745674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-62223049681261769562010-05-18T04:57:08.865-04:002010-05-18T04:57:08.865-04:00"And Snowbrush, why would you wish for adopti..."And Snowbrush, why would you wish for adoption? Why wouldn't you just wish your biological parents were better/richer/cooler?" I always wonder this when people say they wish they were adopted - why not just wish that your bio family didn't suck? I guess it just comes down to the fact that it is impossible to know how it feels to be raised by biological strangers, having no idea what your true genetic heritage is, unless you have lived it. And before anyone starts with the "genetic heritage doesn't matter" crap, why are the so many bloody shows on TV about it? Now we get to watch Lisa Kudrow find her roots but American adoptees are meant to just shut up and deal with having sealed records. And rant over.Erimenthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12059282119494153938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-39384611702932481112010-05-18T00:42:20.777-04:002010-05-18T00:42:20.777-04:00Thank you guys, you all hit the nail on the head (...Thank you guys, you all hit the nail on the head (for loss of better words).Nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01659742665523317143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-1192460068553480182010-05-18T00:17:54.137-04:002010-05-18T00:17:54.137-04:00Well, a young Al Pacino was pretty hot so I can se...Well, a young Al Pacino was pretty hot so I can see how you loved that. Anyone with any ounce of honesty would admit to wishing that they were raised within a loving biological family vs. a loving non-bio one. Let's get real.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-80234026225612640282010-05-17T22:36:01.843-04:002010-05-17T22:36:01.843-04:00I hear you, Italian princess! I was a Scotch/Iris...I hear you, Italian princess! I was a Scotch/Irish girl who grew up with Germans.<br /><br />LOL to Snowbrush. I can top his shitty bio parents claim with some shitty adopters! Mine! The ones who say they had bad bio parents always assume they'd have had wonderful strangers adopting them--not by a long shot!<br /><br />Your nephews are about as likey to discuss their feelings about adoption with as they are their sex lives--it's a very intimate subject.Sunnynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-8595702862363644642010-05-17T21:41:50.217-04:002010-05-17T21:41:50.217-04:00"Why wouldn't you just wish your biologic..."Why wouldn't you just wish your biological parents were better/richer/cooler?"<br /><br />I didn't answer the question according to every possible option but according to how I understood you to ask it.<br /><br />"Blood ties surpass money and white picket fences."<br /><br />When my sister wanted to send our ailing father to a nursing home in another state to get him well out of her hair, it was my wife who agreed that she and I should take him it. He lived with us for his last two years and often said that they were the happiest of his life and that my wife was more of a daughter to him than his own flesh and blood.Snowbrushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00436087215476479042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-51083750727170215572010-05-17T21:16:45.274-04:002010-05-17T21:16:45.274-04:00I hear ya. I would have preferred my natural famil...I hear ya. I would have preferred my natural family, too. Growing up with strangers will never replace the natural bond a child has with his or her natural Mother. Snowbrush- your nephews are like most adoptees- we NEVER speak of our "angst" to our adoptive parents, or anyone else for that matter because we fear we will be left again. <br />Yes, amazon- we have 4 REAL parents. How dare anyone tell us anything else.lindalouwhonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-69412833298895002532010-05-17T21:02:50.414-04:002010-05-17T21:02:50.414-04:00"What also rankles me is non-adopted people t..."What also rankles me is non-adopted people telling adoptees how they're supposed to feel. I'm sure I don't have to explain why it does..."<br /><br />Yes, me too! I have 4 parents and all of them are real to me. Non-adopted people coming in and trying to define my existence is just plain annoying. <br /><br />And Snowbrush, why would you wish for adoption? Why wouldn't you just wish your biological parents were better/richer/cooler?amazon adopteehttp://www.amazonadoptee.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-13275186013403646752010-05-17T20:45:17.042-04:002010-05-17T20:45:17.042-04:00Really. What rankles me is when I hear natural mot...Really. What rankles me is when I hear natural mothers referred to as nothing more than incubators for the upper middle class white family wanting a new baby. <br /><br />Blood ties surpass money and white picket fences. <br /><br />What also rankles me is non-adopted people telling adoptees how they're supposed to feel. I'm sure I don't have to explain why it does...Nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01659742665523317143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-55290088211800332912010-05-17T18:07:47.356-04:002010-05-17T18:07:47.356-04:00"I would have preferred my natural family fro..."I would have preferred my natural family from birth... wouldn't you? "<br /><br />No! Not if I could have had a better childhood with an adopted family. My childhood with my birth parents sucked. My sister has two adopted boys. If they ever felt any angst about being adopted, I'm unaware of it. What rankles me no end is when I hear the birth parents referred to as the "real parents" as if the people who loved and cared for a child were nothing but fill-ins.Snowbrushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00436087215476479042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-39211952846581970582010-05-17T13:01:08.400-04:002010-05-17T13:01:08.400-04:00... I do have black heritage, though I was more aw...... I do have black heritage, though I was more aware of the Italian heritage growing up.<br />I have a great adoptive family, but I think I would have preferred my natural family from birth, that's after all the most natural situation, don't you think?Nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01659742665523317143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-84864767637817619392010-05-17T03:13:31.823-04:002010-05-17T03:13:31.823-04:00I guess things could have been stranger. You could...I guess things could have been stranger. You could have been black or Korean, but that's still some combination. All things being equal, would you have preferred an Italian-American family, or would it matter?Snowbrushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00436087215476479042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-28245675230291429232010-05-05T15:55:10.476-04:002010-05-05T15:55:10.476-04:00Hi, Ale--
I'm glad you found me, thanks so mu...Hi, Ale--<br /><br />I'm glad you found me, thanks so much for reading. Let me know if you have a blog. :)Nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01659742665523317143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-5203464153417161812010-05-05T14:27:25.513-04:002010-05-05T14:27:25.513-04:00Hi!
I love your blog. I got here by pure chance. ...Hi!<br /><br />I love your blog. I got here by pure chance. I think it was while browsing about the stupid Arizona law. I'll be your fan from now on.<br /><br />Keep the good spirit!<br />AleAlejandranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-50763516421311127142010-05-04T10:59:28.475-04:002010-05-04T10:59:28.475-04:00Oh, sheesh, that old ignorant question again! How ...Oh, sheesh, that old ignorant question again! How about we ask abused children if they'd rather be abused or aborted; or ask rape victims if they'd rather be raped or dead. Let's just tell all people who are going through any sort of discrimination, persecution, or pain of any sort "Hey, at least you're alive, right? Would you rather be dead? So stop complaining!" And let's not try to do anything to effect change and make it better for future generations - as long as they're alive, they're just fine!Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13035065548934640559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531193598645350842.post-23305195841316569972010-05-03T19:18:08.477-04:002010-05-03T19:18:08.477-04:00I'm with Nikki. Why the heck do people persist...I'm with Nikki. Why the heck do people persist in asking this ridiculous question? As if such things can be easily sequestered into "right" and "wrong"!<br /><br />Why are critical-minded adoptees reminded to be grateful ALL the time? Why should children ever be made to feel grateful for being born? What tripe.<br /><br />Adoption is complicated and painful for many adoptees. If you can't wrap your head around that, go away until you can figure it out. Then engage in realistic dialogue, rather than throwing the abortion/dumpster/death card in our faces.Katharinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01533662877822544180noreply@blogger.com